Imagine being in one room and calling out dad and two people answer…
Well, that’s how it was when my birth father and adopted father met for the first time last week. I was a little nervous but it didn’t last long. Both of my fathers were very easy going and were happy to meet each other. Birth father got mushy when he said “I want to thank you for taking such good care of Min Jin.” Adopted father said “Gamsahamnida (thank you… for having an illegitimate child and shipping her off to Korea).”
My Birth Father said bought CDs to learn English and said it’s really hard. My Adopted father responded with, “I did the same thing...and Korean is really hard too” --- great minds think alike I guess.
My birth father said, “I feel like we are one big family now” which I think is kinda true. My adopted father said, “Our situation is very lucky and very unique since it’s not very often adopted parents and biological parents can come together like this … and get along.”
My birth father was saying that he feels like I am his daughter and he wants to show me off. That is why he took me to Andong and Pohang, South Korea to see his family.
My adopted dad politely smiled.
After the dinner was over, I asked my dad (adopted dad) what he thought when my birth father said that. He said, “I’m not jealous or angry or anything because I know you’re coming home to me.” So in other words, he took it like a man!
And he’s right… I am so happy to have a family here in Seoul but I’m not going to ditch my family in America and stay in Seoul the rest of my life.
I am building life lasting relationships with my biological family which is awesome… and America is where my home is and where I’ll be returning after this year is up.
Well, that’s how it was when my birth father and adopted father met for the first time last week. I was a little nervous but it didn’t last long. Both of my fathers were very easy going and were happy to meet each other. Birth father got mushy when he said “I want to thank you for taking such good care of Min Jin.” Adopted father said “Gamsahamnida (thank you… for having an illegitimate child and shipping her off to Korea).”
My Birth Father said bought CDs to learn English and said it’s really hard. My Adopted father responded with, “I did the same thing...and Korean is really hard too” --- great minds think alike I guess.
My birth father said, “I feel like we are one big family now” which I think is kinda true. My adopted father said, “Our situation is very lucky and very unique since it’s not very often adopted parents and biological parents can come together like this … and get along.”
My birth father was saying that he feels like I am his daughter and he wants to show me off. That is why he took me to Andong and Pohang, South Korea to see his family.
My adopted dad politely smiled.
After the dinner was over, I asked my dad (adopted dad) what he thought when my birth father said that. He said, “I’m not jealous or angry or anything because I know you’re coming home to me.” So in other words, he took it like a man!
And he’s right… I am so happy to have a family here in Seoul but I’m not going to ditch my family in America and stay in Seoul the rest of my life.
I am building life lasting relationships with my biological family which is awesome… and America is where my home is and where I’ll be returning after this year is up.
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This is great stuff Meghan! I love reading your blog. It's a pretty awesome situation how your Dad went over there and got along with your birth father. Anyway, just wanted to let you know I read still... I click on this bookmark most days!
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