Min & Mun

I never imagined that when I met my biological brother for the first time 12 years ago that we’d get from the “ass out-awkward hug” to the full blown “I love you man hug” but that is what has happened.

As I think I’ve said before, we have this unusual unspoken chemistry and it amazes me how much we get each other and how much I grow to love him each day we spend together.

He called me as I was finishing work to tell me he was at my apartment and asked if I had dinner… which was perfect because I was starving! He said “delivery pizza” to be polite because I think he feels bad we always eat Korean food. I put an “x” on that and went for 치즈똔까스 aka “pork cutlet filled with cheese” instead! Haha... anyway, I asked how he was these days... tired? busy? happy? And he said “a little bit of everything.”

Long story short – him and my birth father seem to butt heads. My birth father likes to drink and isn’t very good with money. So Mun Hyuk seems to have a lot of pressure to take care of him and it’s hard since they don’t see eye-to-eye. He seems like such a care taker to him and my sister and it makes me sad he’s not living a normal 26 year old life.

To prove my point - I asked “Do you still want to come to America” and he said “to America very much I want… BUT... father’s monthly paycheck is very little” - basically he said he needs to stay home and work to pay the bills but wants to come in 3-4 years.

Now, he and I are both prideful and stubborn but now I’m on a mission to see how much money he’ll lose if he comes to the US for a week and try to see if he’d accept money from me to cover the difference while he’s gone…I love a good challenge :)

So, after he fricken paid for my meal (again!), we left “Kimbap Heaven” and he put his arm around me as a brother would (almost headlock-like) and it almost made me tearful because it made me realize how special he is to me and how I am 99% sure it's reciprocal"

(Geez... I hope one day I can re-create this relationship with a man who speaks English AND who I’m not related to!)